so. i joined eharmony like a month ago.. didn’t start actually paying for it tho until last week. hey had a good deal for 3 months for $13 a month. that’s a steal compared to their advertised prices. So i thought what the hell, i’ll give it a shot.

within the first month i’ve been rejected by 109 men. That means, 109 men looked at my picture, read a bit about me and slapped a reject stamp across my forehead and closed the match. Two people have actually started communication with me. The first is 31. he sent me questions and I couldn’t answer right away, i couldn’t even see photos because you can’t until you’re a paying member. bUt then last weekend they had a free communication weekend so i quickly sent him a response the minute i could, and sent along my questions.

The firs step in communication is selecting 5 questions out of a list of about 40 to send to the match. these are the 5 questions i chose:

1. If you were taken by your date to a party where you knew no one, how would you respond?
A: stay close to my date, letting him/her introduce me
B: find a spot at the back bar and relax alone, letting him/her work the room
C: strike out on my own, introducing myself and making friends
D: I would ask my partner if I could skip this particular event

2. On Saturday night, would you rather go to:
A: ballet/theater/symphony
B: a professional sporting event
C: a popular new movie
D: the latest dance club

3. If you could take a dream getaway, where would you most likely choose to spend a week?
A: Paris
B: Hawaii
C: hiking in the mountains
D: a cottage by the sea

4. Which sort of date sounds like the most fun to you?
A: attend a lecture on a topic that appeals to both of you
B: go bargain hunting at a local flea market or antique shop
C: go bowling
D: visit a local comedy club

5. If I had a bad day, what is the first thing you would do for me?
for me?

A: Cook you dinner
B: Rub your shoulders
C: Talk with you about your day
D: Take you out on the town

None of these questions are a deal breaker,  I’m just curious to the answers.  It helps get to know what kind of person they are.

then i sent my second set of questions:

1. If you had one day in your life to live over, which would you choose and why?
2. You mention in your profile that you enjoy theater and the arts and that you’ve seen Les Mis. What play or musical is your favorite and why? Have you had the chance to see it on Broadway? Which one do you want to see but haven’t yet?
3. How big is your extended family? What are the holidays like for you and your family?

and never heard back from him again.  It’s been nearly 2 weeks. I sent a nudge, where the system will remind them that they have questions waiting and it shows that he’s looked at my profile since, but no response.

I then decided i’d delete out all the ones that i really wasn’t interested in and then i sent 1st questions to all the rest. That was 25 men.  None of them have responded.  I cant tell you how fantastic that feels!!

so a few more days then i’ll go thru and close all those matches.. if they’re not interested i wish they’d just close the frickin match already.

ive hardly been getting any matches anymore.  i got one last night. was my first in about 4 days.I’m beginning to be very glad i didn’t shell out a shitload of money for this service.  Ill keep you updated.


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